the most common assumptions about me
lets talk assumptions. assumptions are easy because they’re based off of our own “safe zone” biases. and they’re usually wrong.
I thought it would be interesting to start sharing some common assumptions about me (and what the truth is). you ready?
𝗮𝘀𝘀𝘂𝗺𝗽𝘁𝗶𝗼𝗻: I chose Monat because my photography business was failing.
𝘵𝘳𝘶𝘵𝘩? my photography business was 𝘁𝗵𝗿𝗶𝘃𝗶𝗻𝗴. still is. ❤️ I was tired of trading hours for dollars, missing soccer games, and missing nights and weekends with my kids. I hit a wall with how many sessions I could do in a week while still doing my job well, I wasn’t the mom I knew I wanted to be, and I needed to be more present at home.
honestly? photography played very little into why I clicked that “join now” button. the reason was actually way more simple and less complicated:
➡️ my husband and I knew he would be furloughed within the year. and with that, we would lose a six figure income, all health insurance, and retirement benefits.
➡️ 𝗺𝘂𝗹𝘁𝗶𝗽𝗹𝗲 𝘀𝘁𝗿𝗲𝗮𝗺𝘀 𝗼𝗳 𝗶𝗻𝗰𝗼𝗺𝗲 𝗶𝘀 𝘁𝗵𝗲 𝘀𝗺𝗮𝗿𝘁𝗲𝘀𝘁 𝘁𝗵𝗶𝗻𝗴 𝗮𝗻 𝗲𝗻𝘁𝗿𝗲𝗽𝗿𝗲𝗻𝗲𝘂𝗿 𝗰𝗮𝗻 𝗱𝗼. 🤷🏼♀️ full stop. this is reason enough! 😂 there are studies upon studies proving just that, it’s not even an arguing point. all my eggs in one basket (photography) would have been the stupidest thing I could have done. and I knew that.
➡️ the products were game changing. the company paid well, it was a consumable line made in the USA, I knew that my friends wanted it, I was already sharing the products on social 𝘸𝘪𝘵𝘩𝘰𝘶𝘵 getting paid, and it was a no risk investment. $300 for product I was using anyway? sold.
➡️ I knew influencer marketing and social selling was about to explode, and it was an opportunity I was no longer going to sit on.
➡️ I knew I could build it without trading hours for dollars, time for money, and my timeline was my own.
so. the next time you see a woman diversifying her business portfolio, the last thing you should assume is “𝘰𝘩, 𝘣𝘭𝘦𝘴𝘴 𝘩𝘦𝘳 𝘩𝘦𝘢𝘳𝘵. 𝘩𝘦𝘳 𝘣𝘶𝘴𝘪𝘯𝘦𝘴𝘴 𝘮𝘶𝘴𝘵 𝘣𝘦 𝘴𝘶𝘧𝘧𝘦𝘳𝘪𝘯𝘨.” and instead? give the middle finger to your scarcity mindset and join her already. 💪🏼
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𝗮𝘀𝘀𝘂𝗺𝗽𝘁𝗶𝗼𝗻: I’m only successful because I have a following on social media.
the truth? I didn’t start Monat with a huge social media following. 👋🏼👋🏼 Hi. I live here, in the land of “we all start with zero followers and zero clue what we’re doing.” what following I did have? 𝘐 𝘸𝘰𝘳𝘬𝘦𝘥 𝘳𝘦𝘢𝘭𝘭𝘺 𝘩𝘢𝘳𝘥 𝘰𝘷𝘦𝘳 𝘴𝘪𝘹 𝘺𝘦𝘢𝘳𝘴 𝘵𝘰 𝘣𝘶𝘪𝘭𝘥. so taking my hard work and consistency out of the equation isn’t rational thought— it’s scarcity mindset.
I could fail with 100k followers or thrive with 100. 𝗳𝗼𝗹𝗹𝗼𝘄𝗲𝗿𝘀 𝗱𝗼𝗻’𝘁 𝗲𝗾𝘂𝗮𝗹 𝗱𝗼𝗹𝗹𝗮𝗿𝘀.
if you’re blaming someone with social media numbers higher than yours, you’re living as a victim. and victims don’t build thriving businesses. 𝘃𝗶𝗰𝘁𝗶𝗺𝘀 𝗯𝗹𝗮𝗺𝗲 everyone else for why they can’t build the life they want instead of simply getting to work.
the questions you should ask yourself are these:
☀️ who inspires me on social media, and what can I duplicate while creating my own brand?
☀️ am I willing to put in the time it takes to build trust with my audience?
☀️ am I consistently offering value to others knowing that it’ll be unpaid work for many months before I start to see a return on my investment?
if you want to do this? you 𝗰𝗮𝗻 do this! the beauty of building a business with me? I have 10 years of experience building a brand on social media, and all of my knowledge is yours for free for the life of your business.
you can do this. Let me show you how.
LASTLY: here we go, one of the worst assumptions out there:
𝗮𝘀𝘀𝘂𝗺𝗽𝘁𝗶𝗼𝗻: “she puts her own life on social media, so I have a right to create my own narrative about her life choices, parenting style, religious views, political affiliation and finances.”
𝘁𝗿𝘂𝘁𝗵: 😂🤡
no, you aren’t privy to the details someone doesn’t share on social media, ever.
no, you don’t have a right to pry.
I know it’s disappointing, but the assumed narratives about me are always, always 100% inaccurate. one hundred percent false. not a lick of truth.
if you “hate follow” anyone to poke holes in their lives based off the little bit you see on social media, I hope you stop sooner rather than later. and I 𝘬𝘯𝘰𝘸 you’ll eventually look back and realize how much time was wasted.
“If others tell us something we make assumptions, and if they don't tell us something we make assumptions 𝘁𝗼 𝗳𝘂𝗹𝗳𝗶𝗹𝗹 𝗼𝘂𝗿 𝗻𝗲𝗲𝗱 𝘁𝗼 𝗸𝗻𝗼𝘄 𝗮𝗻𝗱 𝘁𝗼 𝗿𝗲𝗽𝗹𝗮𝗰𝗲 𝘁𝗵𝗲 𝗻𝗲𝗲𝗱 𝘁𝗼 𝗰𝗼𝗺𝗺𝘂𝗻𝗶𝗰𝗮𝘁𝗲...”
- Miguel Ruiz, 𝘛𝘩𝘦 𝘍𝘰𝘶𝘳 𝘈𝘨𝘳𝘦𝘦𝘮𝘦𝘯𝘵𝘴: 𝘈 𝘗𝘳𝘢𝘤𝘵𝘪𝘤𝘢𝘭 𝘎𝘶𝘪𝘥𝘦 𝘵𝘰 𝘗𝘦𝘳𝘴𝘰𝘯𝘢𝘭 𝘍𝘳𝘦𝘦𝘥𝘰𝘮
